SECTION THREE
A Few Practical Things You Might Explore to Affirm Your Gender Identity
When considering a name change, many people start off sharing their new pronouns, name, and identity piece with close friends and family. Some people try different names depending on how they feel; some might “try a name on” to see what sticks and feels right. Whatever your journey is, you may eventually have questions about formal name changes. Here are a few things to consider when considering a legal name change:
It's worth looking into the steps to get started with the process. Remember things take time and can be frustrating when it doesn’t happen as fast as you like.
Your Journey, Your Pace
Remember, there's no "right" way to explore your gender identity. Take your time, be patient with yourself, and explore what feels authentic to you.
- There is a legal process in courts to formally and legally change your first, middle, and last name (one or all of these)
- Most contracts (getting an apartment, setting up a bank account, applying to collage, car loans, etc.) require legal and accurate identification, so if any of the above steps need to be completed, it is worth starting that process as soon as possible.
- There are multiple places to update when changing a name:
- Driver’s license, state ID, or identification cards
- Birth certificate: name and gender marker (depending on circumstance)
- Social security card with the same number but with the changed name
- Passport
- School records, health insurance, banks, formal policies of any kind, and bills
The laws and policies around these steps change often and vary state to state. Advocates for Trans Equality (www.transequality.org) has developed a wonderful document that provides an overview of the name and gender marker change process through the United States: For state-specific instructions, visit TransEquality resources.
Remember
- There's no rush - take your time exploring
- It's okay to change your mind or try different things
- Your gender identity is valid regardless of how you express it
- Seek support from trusted friends, family, or professionals
- Prioritize your safety and well-being always
Your Identity is Valid
Whatever you discover about yourself through this exploration is valid and worthy of respect. Trust yourself and your experiences.
